What Do You Really Want Out of Life?


People underestimate what I’m capable of achieving. When I want something bad enough I’ll do whatever it takes to make it happen. I’ll do research, I’ll ask questions, I’ll plant seeds, I’ll make mistakes, and I’ll learn. I don’t wait and hope for things to happen because I know nothing comes for free.

When some people ask how I’m doing, they’re not looking to hear my latest and greatest news, but they’re trying to call me out and gloat over my misfortunes. It scares people to know that if someone who they think is quiet and fragile has enough balls to make things happen, then it forces them to face their true fears.

There will always be uncertainties in life and I’ll never know the actual outcome until I try. To get what I want, I know I need to stick my neck out and take risks. Half the battle is just getting up and doing something. It doesn’t matter how I get it done or what others think, but just how badly I want it.

To make any mistake is better than to do nothing, and along the way I’ve found that what I thought I wanted wasn’t what I wanted at all. And the second half of the battle is being brave enough to reevaluate my goals and change them. Sometimes I’ve stuck to my old goals because if I changed them, I’ll risk looking like I failed. However, I’ve learned to live life for myself and not give a shit what others think. I’m the only one who’s going to be with me until the end.

Since I’ve started exploring my career options, I’ve changed my goals a dozen times but I’ve always told myself to find a career that I’m truly passionate about. Being real with myself, I know that a career in fashion is not lucrative so I have to ask myself, “What is it that I really want?” Sure it’d be great to have a six-figure salary, live in a fully-furnished condo, and drive a luxurious car, but will I be happy without them?

Yes, I know there’s a clear difference between wants and needs, but there’s also a difference between what I truly want and what I want which is influenced by others. In other words, I only want a six-figure salary because that’s how others around me define success. However, in reevaluating my goals I’ve discovered that I’d be happy without all those things.

All I want is to find a career that I love that challenges me and allows me to grow, while living in a small little hole-in-the-wall apartment within walking distance from work, earn a salary that is sufficient enough to pay for the necessities of life as well as to save on my retirement and spend on socializing and shopping, all away from my crazy family. That’s it. I don’t need a giant home with the white picket fence and I don’t need to wine and dine at extravagant restaurants.

Knowing what I truly want is so liberating. It takes the pressure off of trying to achieve goals that I don’t even want. This life is about living for me, not in proving myself or pleasing others.

So take the time to reevaluate your goals. Maybe you do want to wine and dine at extravagant restaurants but can do without a fancy home. If that’s what you want then make it happen.

What do you really want out of life?